크라코브 선생님의 <갈등의 원인과 해법>을 듣고 (4) - 타인에 대한 나의 태도

타인에 대한 나의 태도

* 상대에 대해 협력적이라는 면에서 여러분은 스스로 어느 정도라고 생각합니까? "1 - 전혀 협력적이 아니다"에서 "10 - 완전히 협력적이다" 사이에 어디쯤인지 표시해 보시기 바랍니다.

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* 여러분은 자신의 감정과 생각을 소중이 여기고 관철하려 합니다. 그러면 상대방에게도 그런 "권리"를 보장합니까? 상대방의 감정과 생각이 여러분에게 불편해지는 경우에도 그렇습니까?
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* 거의 모든 조직에는 다른 사람에게는 없는 특권을 갖는 사람이 있습니다. 여러분은 자신의 특권을 상대방에게 양도할 용의가 있습니까?
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* 최근의 대화 상대 5인을 정신적인 눈 앞에 떠올려 보시기 바랍니다. 그 5인과의 대화를 하나씩 떠올립니다. 당시 여러분의 태도는 어떠했습니까?
- 나는 괜찮아 ... 너도 괜찮아
- 나는 괜찮아 ... 너는 괜찮지 않아
- 나는 괜찮지 않아 ... 너는 괜찮아
- 나는 괜찮지 않아 ... 너도 괜찮지 않아

 

* 대화에서 나온 문제 해결책이 여러분이 선호하는 것이 아니라도 받아들일 수 있습니까?
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* 여러분은 대화 상대방의 사고와 견해에 정말 관심이 있습니까? 즉, 상대방의 내면에서 일어나는 것을 정말 알고 싶은가요?
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* 사실이나 관계에 도움이 된다면 여러분 자신이 원하는 것이나 기대 사항을 주장하지 않거나 심지어 포기할 용의가 있습니까?
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* 여러분 자신의 약점이나 실수를 알아차립니까? 그런 것을 상대방에게 떠넘기고 있는 자신을 깨닫습니까?
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* 상대방에게 자신의 이야기를 하게 하면서 성급하게 반응하거나 말을 끊거나 조언하려고 들지는 않습니까?
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* 여러분은 상대방에게 성급한 결론을 내리지 않고 충분히 생각하도록 여유를 주고 권고합니까?
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* 여러분의 대화 상대방은 다른 사람의 인도에 기대지 않고 스스로 잘못을 바로잡을 만큼 자주적인 사람입니까?
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